I don’t know how much most people know about Texas, but the general idea is that Texas is an extremely red (republican) state, with two blue (democrat) ‘dots’ in it. Those two cities are Houston and Austin.
Houston is laid back and generally accepting of anything and anyone. Austin, on the other hand, is pretty much full of people who are actively TRYING to “out-weird” each other. Seriously. The city motto is “Keep Austin Weird”.
The point I’m trying to get at is that my girlfriend and I are from Houston; she got offered a University teaching job (she taught for 9 years at the high school level, previously) here in Iowa, which she took, but now there’s a potential job opportunity for her in Austin. I really am not enjoying Iowa as much as I thought I would (there aren’t many cultural or assimilation opportunities and I feel really alone in the area) but at the same time I’m not sure I can handle another move. I think it would make my girlfriend happy to be back in the hot climate and closer to her family and friends, and I think I would like it better than Iowa, but it’s stressing me out just THINKING about the possibility of packing and paying for the move and all the things that go along with it.
However, I think for the time being I will just pretend it doesn’t exist. Even though all I want to do is plan the entire thing out, so I have SOME modicum of control over the situation, I will refrain…because apparently that stresses HER out (when I plan things that haven’t been confirmed yet)…I don’t think she realizes that that is MY way of dealing with my own freak out. I will try to stay calm and not “put the cart before the horse”.
Well…anyways…I’ll keep y’all updated and let you know if I find any good coping strategies.